we ignore these warnings

Javier Marías:

‘In Your Face Tomorrow, the main subject is the near impossibility of knowing what a face, in a metaphorical sense, can bring us tomorrow. We tend to believe we know what to expect from the people around us, the people we love. Even if we have hints of things we don’t like, we ignore these warnings. One of the things Sir Peter Wheeler says is that people do not want to see any more, they do not want to be alert.’

emotional education

David Brooks:

For reasons having to do with the peculiarities of our civilization, we pay a great deal of attention to our scholastic educations, which are formal and supervised, and we devote much less public thought to our emotional educations, which are unsupervised and haphazard. This is odd, since our emotional educations are much more important to our long-term happiness and the quality of our lives.

most accurate

one study has shown that when people use the word “most”, they don’t just mean more than 50%; specifically they mean 80-95%.

for example, when they say “women are mostly scary”, they mean out of 10 women, 8 or 9 of them are scary.

which is why i leave out the word mostly.

[via Barking up the wrong tree]

do not

there is this theory, believed by many, that doing is more important than not doing.

action speaks louder than words. don’t just stand there, do something. seize the day.

as for me, the things I did not do – did not take credit, did not defend myself, did not spend that money, did not become an asshole, did not lecture, did not expose secrets, did no harm – these are the things i am happiest about.

no horsing around

[16:49] non-profit worker:: how was ur trip?
[16:49] non-profit worker:: what was the highlight?
[16:50] me: riding the carousel in front of the natural history museum?
[16:50] non-profit worker:: oooo… nice hwat
[16:50] non-profit worker:: so romantic
[16:51] me: it hard’s to romance a mechanical horse

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(photo censored since at last count, I have at least 18,000 enemies)